Sunday, November 28, 2010

great expectations?

There is nothing worse than people not living up to your own expectations, whether that is a family member, a friend, or some one you are romantically involved with.  Why is it so hard to accept things that disappoint us and just move on?  People let you down when you least expect it, but why is it so hard to look past everything and let go.  Are we all guilty of putting people on pedestals then get mad when they crumble to be just like everyone else? 

Probably the worst kinds of situations involving this are romantic relationships and close friendships, whether that's past or present.  People change and circumstances change, but how does that make the situation any better?  Just a hint, it doesn't.  Even if you know something was never supposed to work out or be the way you once thought, does that make it any easier to swallow? No, it sure doesn't.  Nothing is worse than trusting someone with your heart and inner self, just to have it repeatedly stepped on.  Do we ask too much of the people we trust or are we simply trusting the wrong people?  Are we creating patterns that can never be broken or are we simply tolerating less than what we deserve? 

Have we just been dating the same guy over and over or have we been tolerating so much of the same issues that it sets a pattern?  Who is to say for sure, but the one thing I do know is that one day in the future I will be able to break my pattern and not have to settle for less than what I know I deserve.  I deserve someone who is a gentleman, kind, articulate, intelligent, and loves me without strings.  Have we been over looking and justifying everything that we know deep down is a red flag or have we just had a run of bad luck?  No idea.

Are we projecting such factitious and great expectations upon the ones we get close to or are we meeting the wrong ones?  I think it's probably a combination of both.  By assuming someone will jump in and rescue you, you are inferring you need rescuing...ridiculous.

Life isn't a fairy tale, but we can all live happily ever after...even if we get disappointed along the way.

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